Why we fall in love with rascals?

Sometimes you can see at first sight – this man will necessarily cheat, deceive, behave only the way he needs. And nevertheless there will necessarily be a woman, who will start suffering and serving him devotedly.

NOBODY CAN LOVE

There are few signs which are rather apparent like

He comes and calls only when he wants.

He does not visit you in a hospital and disappears during difficult moments.
He is cold and scornful, but thus demands attention and is capable to make a scandal because of cooled dinner.

When it is a character of a film, it is interesting to observe his actions – he has negative charm, and, as a rule, has a woman, capable to “re-educate” him. But in a real life a rascal has a girlfriend or wife, whom he suits the way he is: she, certainly, suffers and can complain to girlfriends, but is not going to break up with her boyfriend.

Being near unloving partner, a woman demonstrates her low self-estimation coming since childhood. She does not believe someone can love her – stupid, ugly, fat. And even if she meets a man, who will treat her kindly and not pay attention to these lacks (and most likely, they and are not present – only unloving or too exacting relatives were convinced of them), a woman with low self-estimation will make everything for him to leave her. Being near the one who behaves like natives or teachers in her childhood: despises, humiliates and offends, is better for her.

PASSIONS FATAL

Dialogue with a rascal gives a chance to experience negative, but strong emotions: such people are not always cold and severe, they are also capable of caress, which causes splash of happiness of improbable force in enamoured woman. Scientists spent experiments on animals and came to a conclusion that positive reinforcement (carried out task – received meal) often yields the worst results, rather than absence of negative reinforcement (received current – carried out task – current was ceased). Quite often people behave by the same principle: when a woman sees a sudden smile on her lover’s face, she feels delight, and then recollects an instant of happiness for a long. Men who constantly pay attention to their wives or girlfriends, give gifts and smile often, they usually should think out something original to please her. Bastards know about force of absence of negative reinforcement well, they just don’t need delight itself, they need female services: tasty meal, sexual caresses, gifts.

… And a fascinated woman willingly gives it all.

You can feel bitter and sick, but you will never feel bored – a story about life with him will handicap any serial. Besides, a weight of emotions is experienced during a story, thanks to reaction of girlfriends. “You as if live in a novel!” – a girlfriend says, and a woman feels she is somehow unique. “I would not sustain it precisely!” – and a woman feels strong and courageous. “You will only waste your time and ruin nerves!” – and a woman thinks only she understands true essence of love: many of us dreamt and continue dreaming not of a true and reliable husband, but about strong passions. Without reflecting on their consequences and the fact that rough and uneasy life unessentially leads to happiness: bright emotions can also be positive – but a rascal does not wish giving them.

RETURN YOURSELF

Having looked back at some instant moment, it is possible to see the whole gallery of portraits of various rascals and recollect how they offended, did not understand and how, after parting with next from them, there was confidence: my following man will be other. But then you found out that thought was a mistake. Each of these men which have brought so much grief, has pain inside – coldness of mother, contempt of the first girl, failures – and, as a matter of fact, they need help, instead of humility. But, wishing to revenge women for this pain, they select themselves a suitable girlfriend, who does not appreciate herself and is ready to endure all, moreover – wishes to suffer.

An expert-psychologist can help you opening this circle, changing a repeating scenario. But to begin with it is necessary to try finding a healthy part in your soul, which will give a chance to trace how painful relations begin – and start behaving differently. Eventually, each of us has something worthy of love and respect.

Sweat ! – The determinal of Romance

When it comes to romance , it seems that sweat is all you need to determine the fate of relationship .

A new study has suggested that if one perspires  a lot while talking to a romantic partner , than that person may not be the right choice.  According to researchers , sweating is a sign that the person is making an effort to control his or her own behavior and becoming agitated in a way that requires self – control .

Moreover, sweating lead to a situation where  the romantic partner could think that you are not interested in him/her and try to move away from the relationship.

“Both heart rate and skin conductance have been linked to a host of important outcomes in interpersonal relationships including the likelihood of divorce. It’s a problem if you need to inhibit your self greatly while havinf a conversation with your partner about kinds of things you would ordinally be talking about and tryint to resolve in your daily lives .” – Glenn Roisman

The researchers have based their findings on an analysis of a  questionaire up by dating , ebggaged and married couples – the subjects were asked to give information about their own partner personalities and the quqlity of relationships.

They also measyred the participants heart rate and skin  conductance – which measures sweat  – in their study to come to the conclusion that perspiration is linked to romance .

True love – difficult. How to find one?

People think that its very difficult to find True love and they are often confused when they meet their half. Its not apparent that the person they are dating is the right choice. So where to meet your Love? This question often boggles the mind and its not easy to answer especially to self. What could be the best place to meet? would it be street, banals, sea shores (risky), clubs (for one night),  on work (nonprofessional). Each of us dreams of romantics, eternal love, smart life with expensive resorts, refined gifts. But where to find such a miracle?

Usually people collect any material things: figurines, books, candles, cups, plates, souvenirs. Presently it is difficult to remain a person with pure, open soul. All of us aspire to career, success, comfortable life, but you will not buy love for money. Majority of women approach to this question pragmatically – “the main thing is stability”.

For those who also trust this, waits and hopes I offer real stories of big and pure love.

Together to grey hair

On a bench in a shade of a huge chestnut in the middle of a noisy city an old woman and man sat holding hands. They told a fantastic story. In youth he waited for a girl for a date with a bunch of flowers at a stop, and she was waiting for a guy. Each of them was late, the street became deserted, and they started a conversation. Without having waited for anybody, they decided to walk around a city. All day long they wandered on streets, communicated, without having noticed, when evening has shrouded the city. Amazed with a girl’s unusual charm, similarity of their interests, and having felt unexpectedly that this was that feeling he waited for so long, a young man offered her his hand and heart, and she gave consent without reflecting. They have been living happily for 50 years, without serious quarrels, treasures and betrayal. And the most important thing – their were full of love eyes during conversation with me, they shone as if they were twenty.

Blind date

A girlfriend, cheerful and optimistical, was depressed suddenly. Nothing could please her anymore: neither trips on night clubs, nor noisy parties at restaurants and cafe, time, empty acquaintances. Once she told:« Why things do not happen, like in a fairy tale, in films? I really want something unusual, hands shivering for the first time, and heart jumping out of a breast». A week passed. At three o’clock in the morning she was woken by a mobile call. In a somnolence she took it and heard a voice of a stranger from other country who just dialed a wrong number. A man liked her voice, and he asked whether it was possible for him to call again. And then there were three months of correspondence on the Internet, phone conversations for two hours per day and his long-awaited arrival. She saw her elect only on a photo and waited for the moment of the first meeting with horror. Their eyes met at a station, he approached, took her hand and embraced her, as a dear one. They are together for two years.

History with an umbrella

There was a late evening and a terrible downpour. A girl in a white shirt ran across the street, being covered only with a folder for papers. Her dense ringlets were scattered by falls on shoulders. He approached and offered her an umbrella. They exchanged phone numbers, and phoned after a month. Now they are in marriage. It is interesting, when they look at rain, do they recollect the first meeting, a casual gift of destiny?! And whether they kept that fatal umbrella?

Under car wheels

He brought her down by his car when she passed a road. Thank God, all ended without serious traumas, they got off only with strong fright. He brought her to hospital at once and did not depart for a minute. And then visited her every day with a package of different dainties. Dialogue outgrew in a torrid love affair which ended with a wedding. As they say, blessing in disguise.

Where is my good luck?

Each history of acquaintance is unique in its own way. And the most ridiculous – more often people get acquainted on the sea though, apparently, a holiday romance can promise nothing to you. A widespread method for today is Internet. Dating sites are overflowed with lonely and searching. There you can pick up a partner to your criteria, without spending precious time, it is possible to learn about his age, professional work, habits, preferences in the literature etc.

Other’s stories touch, but you ask yourselve a question when and where you will be comprehended with such happiness? You should not run in the rain every day expecting a gentleman with an umbrella and stand at a transport stop, peering at faces of passers-by and, especially, sit with phone in your hands for days without a break. It is necessary just to smile to a life and do what is pleasant to you. It is possible to go on a driving school even if you do not have a car. It is possible to register in yoga, sports hall or pool, go to a cinema, theatre, stereoscopic movie, attend English courses, Spanish or Japanese languages, jump with a parachute, go on a hippodrome or on go-cart racing, learn to play billiards or bowling. And you can go to a sauna or expensive restaurant with girl-friends, on picnics during days off, walk in parks and squares, eat an ice-cream on a bench near your house. It is possible to continue this list of things you could do to try to find him. At least, it is better, than following a daily route – from house – to work, from work – at home, days off – without leaving apartment.

Probably, it is necessary to reflect, why relations are not glued, why we meet not those people? The easiest thing is accusing all and everything, without thinking about things we do wrong. For this purpose it is not obligatory to spend money for a psychologist or fortuneteller, it is enough to sit down and write all positive and negative qualities on a sheet of paper and try to change something in your life.

And the most important thing – it is necessary to believe that you will find that person who will be a Universe for you.

The one who searches, will always find – Someone with True heart said.

All these people lived with hope there would be something unusual with them, that they were waited by mutual love. They did not pay attention to a thickness of a purse, social status, car class. Life makes us gifts only when we are ready for them.

Date with Destiny

You must have noticed that while looking for a life partner many of your friends introduce you with their friends and set you for a blind date. There are many tricksters around but we know that all fingers are not equal. There are times when a stranger will give you hard times but there are people too with whom you will feel very comfortable. You must be very careful and observe the activities and signs of your date. Being judgmental on the first date is not the answer, but here are a few signs to watch out for before you make up your mind to go out on a fateful second.

The Cheap Tipper

A friend met her date at a fancy restaurant and they ordered two ice teas. when the bill arrived, he insisted on paying at the counter. For a Rs 102 bill, he paid Rs 105 and took three bugs back! If he makes excuses to go to loo when it is the time to pay, it’s an SOS signal.

Pay-packet prober

Guys resent being asked how much they earn the first time they meet a girl of her family. Creating an impression of a gold-digger is a complete turn-off. This tends to happen when the entire family shows up the first time a couple meets.

Career dictator

Most women dislike being asked if they want to work after marriage or being told that they have to quit after it. One businessman met a friend and told her that she could continue working: he would give her a room in his office.

Trying too hard

No harm in trying to make a good first impression, but there’s a fine dividing line between cool and over -the-top. Making an effort to dress well is appreciated, but wearing full-blast makeup to look a circus monkey in broad daylight isn’t. Gold chains for men stick out sorely.

Self-obsessed

Some first dates may call on your entire reserves of patience or you can simply choose to tune him/her out. If the person is in love with the sound of his/her voice, she/he should get a dog, not a life partner.

The shiny NRI

If your date’s self -esteem stems from the fact the he grew up in the burbs of Jersey or Wembley, think again. It’s not cool to crib about the roads here or talk about how the chicks here are so conservative. We are like this only.

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Are You Ready for Your First Date?

Dating can be tough and a first date is toughest. So what can you do? Simple, just arm yourself with good first date etiquette. Here are proper first date etiquette :

GROOM YOURSELF

When you go on a date especially if it is a first date, groom yourself properly before you go out. Wear comfortable, clean, and good clothes i.e clothes that suits you. Clean your toenails and fingernails, a French manicure is great.Iron your clothes, wear  a nice watch, put gel on your shortly trimmed hairs(male), so as to give you a neat and smart look. Remember, you are building the foundation and the impression starts here. Cleanliness is must.

HARMLESS FLIRTING

Flirt harmlessly with your date. Teasing him/her and making him/her laugh is also a part of first date etiquette. Laugh at your date’s joke, humor can make your date feel comfortable with you.

SMART TALK

First date etiquette also suggests that you should have a stimulating conversation with your date. act as a lady/gentleman. Complete your date once in a while. above all relax and have fun.

DON’TS OF FIRST DATE ETIQUETTE

Keeping these etiquette in mind assure you of a higher chance of getting a second date but that’s nat at all. You should know what you should not do on a first date. Here are some tips :

- Avoid talking about religion and politics. Your date might have other views on these matters.
- Don’t look around while you are talking to your date. It might appear that you are not interested. Focus on your date.
- Never talk about yourself too much.
- Never talk about your past relationship to your date, It gives a negative impression.
- Don’t make  any offensive jokes.
- Don’t be rude .
- Just be yourself , don’t pretend to be someone else.
- Be punctual on you first date.
- Stay col and clam. Be confident and have faith in yourself.
- Do not try to create an impression of spendthrift.
- Do not try to over show yourself  i.e  don’t try to give a false impression of being rich, avoid talking too much about your financial condition.
- Don’t give high tips.
- Don’t complain on the first date.
- Be cautious about alcohol – if you drink heavily ,you’re not going to get the best.

One secret is to keep him/her waiting for more. Keep it short and meaningful. End it with a simple phrase like: I had a good time. Remember, don’t mention directly to your first date ; So, when can we go out again? Just mention you are going out with friends. Well, for first date i would like to say : BE SAFE

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Top 7 Online Dating Tips

Internet has made everything easily accessible and compact. You are now just a click away from your friends, relatives and those you dream about. This globalization has its own effect and side –effects. One of its side effects can be termed as the habit of online dating in youngsters.

Online dating is unsafe, moreover is subjected to frauds. People use fake id’s to satisfy their urges.

While you considering somebody as your friend, disclosing your life with faith and trust to him/her and in return he/she may be using it in a wrong manner. Always remember there is huge difference between meeting somebody personally and meeting online.

Here are few precautions you should take while dating online:

– Don’t Disclose Your Personal Details: Don not disclose your phone number, address , email etc. to a person online unless and until you have meet him/her personally.

- Don’t be too personal: Avoid disclosing your likes and dislikes in few meetings as you don’t know the other half personally, moreover internet friendships are subjected to many frauds. So don’t be too close unless you have met him/her personally.

- Be cautious about fraud sites: Nowadays there are many frauds site available in the internet world. So be very attentive and careful. Check the credibility and reliability of the site before creating your profile. Try creating a profile with some random name.

- Don’t get to close: Don’t just rush into a relationship. Be steady and slow at initial phase. Avoid getting too much involved with the person and always keep a distance. So that you can prepare yourself for any kind of consequences.

- Be a guard of yourself: It is not possible to judge a person entirely if you haven’t met him. Thus it is advisable to act as a guard for yourself.

- Keep it straight forward: Try to write your emails simple and light hearted as much as possible. Long emails are not required and should be avoided.

- Add humor to your talks: A good sense of humor will attract your friend to communicate with you and will also help you keep it impersonal.

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